My soon to be ex-husband apparently lied to me from the beginning of our relationship and just admitted to some of those lies about a year ago after we were separated. Abuse can leave behind physical and emotional scars. My ex tried that too- setting rules and boundaries to maintain some leash of control over me even after the breakup. My heart goes out to all that have or are facing abuse. I am so proud and impressed that you were able to muster the strength and courage to leave.
He said he also was not ready for this himself and he did not need the pressure of making me happy.
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I literally could not find one until we had a drunken fight in mid-October when I was visiting Chicago. Anyhow all that to say, I feel your pain bud. Cutting off for a while might be a good idea, to allow you to do this. Why did she stay? My current partner was in a very similar situation.